I’m not the biggest fan of New Year’s Resolutions. For one, who ever actually follows through with them? Second, my life changes at such a rapid pace that picking certain major goals for the entire year is very rarely ever going to end up being accurate to my state of existence. And finally, damn, those big year-long goals can pack a lot of unnecessary pressure!
Don’t get me wrong, I love setting goals and planning ways to improve in various areas of my live. My method? Rather than pick lofty goals for the next year, I take things on a monthly basis. Before I get to listing my goals for a particular month, I start with listing the progress I’ve made in the previous month. That can include anything, even small things, that I’ve done to move myself forward in an endeavor (be it personal, professional, etc.). Some items that have previously appeared in my “progress” lists include:
- You meditated every day last month!
- You booked ____ jobs/films/commercials
- You improved on these things in acting class this month: ____________
- You went out of your way to make a new friend this month!
I’ve really enjoyed focusing first on a list of my progress rather than new tasks because it forces me to take the time to appreciate the positive steps I’ve taken for myself. I think we have a tendency to not give ourselves enough credit, to be so focused on what’s coming next that we never get the chance to soak in the progress we’ve worked so hard to make.
Once I’ve detailed my progress, I proceed to listing the goals I’d like to continue working towards in the coming months. I try to keep these centered on values or specific skills and steps rather than a vague end-destination. Because, like I said, my life moves and changes so quickly these days that I’d rather not limit myself around the idea that there’s one final goal or end result. One of the most beautiful things I’ve realized from this monthly practice is that nearly every time, my list of progress is longer than my list of new goals. It’s encouraging, and really fun to look back on to remember how far I’ve come.
As awful as people keep saying 2018 was, this year was actually one of my personal bests. I dug deep, challenged myself to grow and further define the my character and the outline of my life. I changed my career trajectory and jumped into the unknown with refreshing results. I allowed myself to create a world filled with beauty, truth, love, and creativity. I’ve had the incredible support and positivity from friends and family literally around the globe. And I’ve reignited a sense of freedom, motivation, creativity, and knowing 100% who I am and what I want out of this crazy life. And for that I am so incredibly grateful. I can only hope that 2019 continues along this trend.
So here’s to a new year! If you do decide to set a big goal this year, I hope it’s a commitment to being your own best teammate. To allow yourself you tackle the hard work within so that you have the freedom and space to live your life to the very fullest. After all, it’s never too late to create the life you love.