Yep, hi, I’m talking to you. It’s time to get your shit together.
Unless you’re secretly Queen Beyonce (bless her) or Elon Musk, we can all identify goals or areas of our lives that we’ve let fall to the wayside. Or maybe you’ve strayed completely off course, or maybe you don’t know where you’re headed next so you’ve stagnated. Whatever your deal is, it’s time to get your shit together.
I’ll let you in on a secret…there is no big secret. We all have 24 hours worth of time every day to use either in pursuit of what we want, away from what we want, or staying where we’re at. It’s all about time, motivated action and a smidge of organization. Read on for a tough-love pep talk, action steps, and tools to help get you back on track.
Reminder: You’re in Charge of How You Spend Your Time
Your time belongs to you. Such a seemingly obvious idea that we are so quick to forget.
You have a limited amount of time per week and it’s yours to dictate what and whom you give it to. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should slack off work or stop being responsible just because you don’t want to (we ain’t lazy bitches, here). What I’m referring to is all that extra, non-essential stuff that somehow mysteriously appears on our calendars without us remembering we agreed to it. So many of us allow our schedules to be dictated by others (the biggest reason for this is we don’t know how to say no) and before we know it, we have no free time left over to devote to achieving our goals! Be thoughtful and intentional when planning your day. And learn to say no, goddammit.
A Good Opportunity Isn’t Always the Right Opportunity
Every time you are offered something, be it an experience, an opportunity, a job, a meeting, etc. before you answer, ask yourself: will this take me closer or further from my goals? If it will take you further away and/or suck all your free time, politely decline. So often we are quick to say yes to an opportunity because we know that the rest of the world views it as a desirable, “good” opportunity. That doesn’t mean it’s right for you and where you are right now. While it may be a cool opportunity for someone else, it may not be what you need to get you where you’re going. Check in and be honest with yourself.
How to Prioritize Your Life
Are we on the same page? I know this is one of those things that is much, much easier said than done. With social media, streaming services, and all kinds of other distractions lying in wait, our good intentions are so often thwarted. But fear not, I’ve designed a game plan just for you.
- Step One: Write down a list of the things you spend your time on during the week. Yep, I mean everything. Take 3 to 5 days to log your activity as accurately as you can (a slip of paper or note in your phone or laptop will do). This includes time driving, on your phone, working, cleaning your house, etc.
- Step Two: Review your activity logs. Look at the activities you do that aren’t related to making the income you need to live or truly non-negotiable responsibilities. How many of those things are getting you closer to your goals? How many are prohibiting you from your goals, taking you off course, or simply keeping you stuck where you currently are? With a different color highlighter or pen for each category, mark the areas of your days that are adding to your life and goals, subtracting from them, or keeping you at neutral.
- Step Three: Analyze. And skip the bullshit of back-and-forth with yourself. If you notice that you spend 2 or 3 hours every evening mindlessly scrolling through social media apps or every night of the week you have an event, party or dinner to attend, you might need to make some changes. Don’t get me wrong, it is SO important to take time to decompress, spend quality time with friends and family, and do activities just for fun. BUT, most of us have not mindfully created a balance here. Finding a rational balance of the way you spend your time is important to the health of your whole being long-term.
- Step Four: Figure out how much time you need to achieve the growth you want to see each week and rearrange your schedule accordingly. Get rid of those negative zones on your calendar! Don’t be afraid to say no sometimes, or ask to schedule meetings for a different day. Schedule times in your calendar for activities you know will push you in the direction you’re meant to go. Take yourself and your goals seriously by protecting your time. Respecting your personal time is a way to respect yourself, your dreams, and your overall health.
Let’s Do This!
Ultimately, it comes down to this: you are worth the effort. Your goals are worth the effort. Love and respect yourself enough to put in the work to design a life you love. And believe me, it does involve work because you can’t just snap your fingers and make it happen. Identify what gives you life and energy and purpose and do more of those things! You deserve to make it to your metaphorical and literal there, so get your shit together, girlfriend! I’ll be right here cheering you on and getting the cocktails ready to celebrate with.
Need a little extra push? Check out a few of my favorite tools to assist with time management, scheduling and motivation:
Set up your Google Calendar! Use it, sync it with your phone calendar, it’s free.
Need a pep talk? Aussie author and personality, Melissa Ambrosini has a great podcast to help get you motivated!
How do you get your shit together? Share your tips and tricks, I’m all ears!